The promises of promiscuity

The promises of promiscuity

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First, please read and enjoy this rich, deep and fantastic poem written by a young girl Ojatobate Adjekuko. It just makes sense and calls for serious reflection. I hope the rest of the article does justice to the beauty of this poem. Let it sink in before moving on.

Flirty eyes and bold lips

Young faces in make-up concealing innocence

Flashing enhanced bodies covered with the latest trend

Trapped in a bubble of fairyland

The world bowing at their feet

Seeking the fleeting attention of the young

Attracting unwelcome eyes of raging wolves

Enticed by the fresh scent of adventure

Caressing with sweet sounds, ‘I love you’

Fierce hunger of wolves pouncing

Devouring succulent flesh

Quick sand deepening in fantasy

Bed of roses sprouting thorns

Caged by lies and turned to slaves

Furred by fake desires

Love songs become a dirge

Deepening into the abyss

Oh shame sprouts seeds of promiscuity

Deep stares as weapons into her

Head flooding with shame

Smearing red lips and dripping mascara

In a pool of blood she sits

Wishfully turning back the hands of time

Till eyes shut and life ebbs

Her soul not to be

The man in white soon a companion

Ending a journey that has not started

Echoes a mothers wail

Resounding round the hills

Bouncing on the burial ground

Oh, how bitter sweet the promises of promiscuity!

Then, a story from Chinwe

Recently, a young woman wrote on the internet about her experiences in the hands of a terrible man she met online, who pretended to love her but ultimately defiled and damaged her for life.

Chinwe said she befriended the chap on Facebook and subsequently fell in lust with him. For what else can we call what she reported as advice for other young people!

As the story unfolded, she jilted her campus boyfriend in order to engage in an affair with this other man. The new boyfriend made her do depraved acts and, eventually, cut off her nipple, blinded her in one eye and traumatised her psyche permanently.

Chinwe learnt a hard lesson that is perhaps undeserved in reality. For, how could she have known that the knight in shiny armour was a certifiable sociopath?

There are similar stories of social media rapes and murders and young women need to be very careful. Do not expose yourself to monsters on Facebook, twitter and Instagram. Too much information and, especially, pictures about you is definitely not a good idea. Keep your modesty and do not be pushed to impress anyone. Information about where you are, what you have and where you have been on holiday is like a signpost to fiends and monsters.

Rampaging wolves

Other dangers lurk outside of social media. There are many older Nigerian men who just cannot get enough and for whom sex still holds such awe. These wolves, often seen wearing flowing gowns and shiny bright suits, seem to have desperate need for confirmation of their virility. Everything in skirt is game and they use their power, position, luck and opportunity to oppress young girls in desperate need of a bright future. They end up inflicting intense psychological trauma on their young victims.

Many young women who are looking to develop a career and forge ahead in life come across ‘knights’ who promise heaven and earth to help make their dreams come true. For example, the banker who promises to loan you money to start your business, the rich man who wants to support your fledgling snacks shop, the politician who wants to help you move from your one-bedroomed shack to a three bed-roomed house in Maitama, may be ‘he-goats’ just waiting to eat your yam, in return for nothing more than empty promises! If it sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true!

A way out

One way to avert trouble may be to involve someone else in your discussions. A second party you trust, a friend, a family member or your pastor may be engaged to listen to the plans and offer advice. Hidden meetings and secret rendezvous should be avoided, especially if shrouded and cloaked with night.

However, as a really sensible woman also told me, being content with what you have and your current station in life is the real key to avoiding the unwelcome attention of ravenous wolves. Greed begets greed and a false sense of entitlement is the real problem that labels you as bait. If you want what the joneses have, then you lay yourself open to manipulation, deception and falsity. Be content and stay true to yourself.

Mothers will also do well to educate their daughters on the dangers of older men with sweet tongues dripping with fake promises. Encourage your daughters to confide in you, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

NB: World Physiotherapy Day, September 8, 2015, was celebrated quietly by the Abuja chapter of the Nigeria Society of Physiotherapy. Why? the local organising chairman, Shedrack Onwenu, died in a motor vehicle accident before the event. May his soul rest in perfect peace!



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